Sheryl Isaacs is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is currently working in Scotts Valley seeing clients in private practice.
Sheryl has worked with families and children that have experienced a wide range of issues including: anxiety, trauma, depression, autism, ADHD, developmental issues, behavioral issues, divorce, bulimia, grief, communication and self esteem issues. She provides parental coaching, child therapy, sibling counseling, family therapy, marriage counseling, and individual counseling. AuthorArchives
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What Now?3/17/2020
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Something to Remember5/23/2016 Sheryl A. Isaacs MS, LMFT 92557 Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist I truly love this song! As parents it is so easy to get caught up in the "have to" in life. With children, regardless of age, there are so many things that must be done daily. Housework alone can be a never ending list. Dishes and laundry always seems to multiply daily...something that is never really caught up!
It is so important to remember that in the midst of the hustle and bustle we have our kids for a very short time. As I continue to grow older I realize more and more how very quickly time passes. Today is the only day that our child will ever be the age that they are...tomorrow they are already a day older. Today is the day that we are making memories, living out values for our children and even preparing for our grandchildren. The investment me make in our children today will touch generations. If we truly put it in perspective the dishes, the laundry and the kitchen floor will be dirty again. You will always have the opportunity to clean your house and make it spotless in the future. We will never again the time lost with our kids today. They will not be this age again in the future. What a message we send when we verbalize: "The dishes can wait, let's play a game!" "I will take the day off to go to your game!" "Let's just go to the beach and play today!" We send the message you are important, you matter! That is an amazing gift to give your children and your grandchildren. These lessons will endure through the generations in your family. You will teach them self-care and model that even as an adult you need to have fun! This is a lesson that many do not learn, a lesson that I teach adults in therapy. I challenge you to let some of the "busy work" go. I can guarantee that the more you engage with your kids the better your relationship will be and the less stressed you will be. Go on, get your play on!
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CHORE CHART SYSTEM FOR KIDS8/28/2015
I settled for a quick improvised system using what I could find. I grabbed some raffle tickets and four little tubs to use as banks. I bought letter stickers to label the tubs and used a Mason jar I had at home.
I labeled the Mason jar with "Chore Tickets" and the tubs with each boy's name. Each ticket had the chore and price earned on the back. The boys were instructed to put each completed chore ticket in their bank. Very low tech! I had to make do with what I had. I was not impressed. The funny thing is the boys loved it! They love pulling the tickets out of the jar and the element of surprise. They are not allowed to dig for higher priced chores, what you pull out is what you get. Some of the chores they were not fond of, but persevered. They even had the idea I should put a couple tickets in for "do a free chore." I recycle the tickets back onto the Mason Jar the next day. If they happen to pull a chore that does not need to be done, then they try their luck again. Many times it is easy to forget how capable the children are. My four year old grandson is folding laundry, not just towels. By allowing children to do chores they are learning many lessons:
For me this was a great reminder that it is not about being elaborate. I struggle at times making things "bigger" and forget that simple is good. We just need a "good enough" system, not a perfect one. It is really about instilling those values that we want the kids to have. I think I have enjoyed the system just as much, if not more than the kids. It is pretty rewarding seeing how proud the boys are of themselves for a job well done. |