Inspiration for Daily Life!
We can become immobilized with "what ifs" and "should haves." We can not change the past. It is important to remember that when we face a situation we only have the information in front of us. We can only do the best we can with the information, understanding and knowledge that we have at that moment. It is so much easier to look back and see what you could have done differently. We don't beat our friends up for what they should have done. We need to be kinder to ourselves!
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Life is about growth. Embrace the wonder of your growth as you experience new things- good and bad. All these experiences are changing you...growing and stretching you. Move forward with the knowledge that you are becoming daily. If we do not embrace the journey we will miss out on living.
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Negative thoughts can change the way we perceive our world. Negative thoughts can create anxiety, depression, cause issues in relationships, and immobilize us in life. Thoughts, feelings and behaviors are linked together. One can affect the other.
Where do these negative thoughts come from? They can come from trauma, things we were told as a child and from core beliefs that we hold. These automatic thoughts create a vicious cycle of thoughts, emotions, behaviors. Be a scientist! Become aware of your negative thoughts by tracking them and writing them down. Then look for the truth. Take a step back from the situation and look for the evidence that combats the belief. Use positive self-talk reminding yourself of what the reality of the situation is. Here is a link to some helpful tools to combat negative thoughts: List of Unhelpful Thinking Styles Evidence Against Negative Belief Work Sheet ABC Thought Record |
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YOU are so WORTH it! It is important to give ourselves permission to care for ourselves, even to put US first.
When we neglect our #selfcare we increase #anxiety, #stress, #depression, and increase illness and resentment of others. Most times when stress goes up, self care goes down. THAT IS WHEN WE NEED IT MOST! Do something nice for yourself today :) #selflove #quoteoftheday #positivethoghts #psychology #MINDFULNESS #wisdom #widombits #quotestoliveby |
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What is a healthy relationship? How is healthy love different from unhealthy love? There is so much confusion about what love is like. Music videos, movies and songs give such a distorted view. This poster compares and contrasts healthy love vs. unhealthy love. #relationshipstips #psychology #love
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What have you learned from your journey? Sharing the knowledge helps us to grow and helps others who struggle know they are not alone...be a light to others in their darkness.
#tuesdaymotivation #quotestoliveby #quotesonlife #motivational #positivequotes #positivethinking #proverbs #lifelessons |
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Who hasn't been so angry they couldn't think straight? This can happen when we get triggered emotionally. When we get triggered, it is impossible to act or speak rationally. Our limbic system takes over and we function without the help of our pre-fontal cortex, which is the regulator of our behavior. When we allow ourselves to "see red" we are literally at the mercy of our limbic system...we lose the ability to control our behaviors.
Our bodies receive a rush of adrenaline which puts us in that "fight or flight" mindset. If we can slow down our body 's response we can gain our control back. That is why you hear so many people say "count to ten." It literally can take as little as ten seconds to calm down our system. We must practice to do this! Tips to calm down #motivation #quoteoftheday #quotestoliveby #wisdomwednesday #wisdombits #psychology #psychotherapy |
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So many times we get caught up in how we need to behave, what people will think or how we may look that we miss the moments of sheer silliness and fun that make life such a great adventure. Today I challenge you do something different, do something silly, be a little random and see if it doesn't bring a little joy to your life.
#sillysaturday #quotes #quotestoliveby #quotesforlife #saturday #wisdombits #livelife #livelovelaugh #Dareto #animallovers #animals #dog |
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Life brings stress daily. Some days are worse than others... It is so important to remember that a bad day does not determine that we have a bad life. Take time for self care on those days that feel hard to manage, look for the humor in the situation, count your blessings...most of all remember tomorrow is a brand new day!
#motivation #positivethoughts #quotesonlife #quoteoftheday #animals #wisdomquotes #funnypics #humoroftheday #wisdombits |
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Six Tips for Happiness
Have #fun ! Be #engaged in #life ! That is the ultimate #selfcare :) #selfcaresaturday #quotestoliveby #wisdombits #wisdomquotes #zensunday #silly #sunsayfunday #sundayinspiration #sundayfunday |
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Each day we are met with circumstances that change and affect us. Sharing the blessings with others lightens their load and yours :)
#wisdom #wisewords #happiness #quoteoftheday #quotestoliveby #quotesonlife #wisdombits #change #blessings #sundaymorning #sundayinspiration #sundayfunday |
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I bought a box of nectarines and was so excited to have one. When I had one last night it was spongy and I was very disappointed. I had expected to taste the tart sweetness that I had imagined. It was a terrible nectarine :( My first thought was I wasted my money on those nasty nectarines!! I thought the whole box was bad. When I woke up this morning I thought I would give them another go. It was a glorious nectarine! Exactly as I had imagined. So glad that I thought to give it another go.
Sometimes we have to wait for the blessings we want. Sometimes we have to try again for the blessing. Sometimes we can not judge "the box by one nasty fruit." Sometimes we have to change our thinking to get better results. #blessings #lessonlearned #quotesonlife #quoteoftheday #motivationalquotes #peachesandcream #joysandwonders #wisdombits #wisdomquotes |
Ten Codependent Behaviors
1. Low Self Esteem- You feel “less than” or “not enough.”
2. People Pleasing- You find it difficult to tell others, “No.” Telling others no creates uncomfortable anxiety for you.
3. Poor Boundaries- You feel responsible for others feelings and problems or blame others for your feelings and problems.
4. High Reactivity- You are highly reactive and become defensive when others disagree with you or you believe what others think and feel about you.
5. Caretaking- You put others needs, wants and desires before your own regularly.
6. Control- You need to have control to feel safe and secure. You may use people pleasing and caretaking to control those that are close to you to maintain a sense of control in your life.
7. Dependency- You are fearful of being rejected/abandoned in relationships.
8. Denial- You believe that you are responsible for other’s problems and feelings or blame others for your problems and feelings.
9. Intimacy Problems- You have difficulty sharing your “true self” with others due to fear of judgment, rejection and ridicule. You become something other than your true self to be in the relationship. You may find yourself doing things that go against your moral compass to stay in the relationship, which brings about depression.
10. Wants and Needs- You are not aware of your wants or needs or feel selfish when you express wants or needs.
If you find that you are described in this list, don't despair! Therapy has been proven to help change negative behaviors that occur in co-dependency. Therapy can also help alleviate many of the strong emotions that you experience with co-dependency: anger, depression, guilt, feelings of low-self worth.
YOU are a valuable, unique individual. Relationships are meant to be reciprocal in nature, not one sided. You can learn to change your behavior and change your relationships!
2. People Pleasing- You find it difficult to tell others, “No.” Telling others no creates uncomfortable anxiety for you.
3. Poor Boundaries- You feel responsible for others feelings and problems or blame others for your feelings and problems.
4. High Reactivity- You are highly reactive and become defensive when others disagree with you or you believe what others think and feel about you.
5. Caretaking- You put others needs, wants and desires before your own regularly.
6. Control- You need to have control to feel safe and secure. You may use people pleasing and caretaking to control those that are close to you to maintain a sense of control in your life.
7. Dependency- You are fearful of being rejected/abandoned in relationships.
8. Denial- You believe that you are responsible for other’s problems and feelings or blame others for your problems and feelings.
9. Intimacy Problems- You have difficulty sharing your “true self” with others due to fear of judgment, rejection and ridicule. You become something other than your true self to be in the relationship. You may find yourself doing things that go against your moral compass to stay in the relationship, which brings about depression.
10. Wants and Needs- You are not aware of your wants or needs or feel selfish when you express wants or needs.
If you find that you are described in this list, don't despair! Therapy has been proven to help change negative behaviors that occur in co-dependency. Therapy can also help alleviate many of the strong emotions that you experience with co-dependency: anger, depression, guilt, feelings of low-self worth.
YOU are a valuable, unique individual. Relationships are meant to be reciprocal in nature, not one sided. You can learn to change your behavior and change your relationships!
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Don't let a negative perception of yourself hold you back. You are capable and talented. Follow your passion!
#quotes #quoteoftheday #motivation#positivethoughts #lifelessons #wisdombit #weekend #instagram |
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Don't under estimate the power of your thoughts. Thoughts, feelings and behaviors influence each other. When we can change one area we influence the other two!
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I love that song that Lee Ann Womack sings "I Hope You Dance." It is about just living in the moment...we waste too much time bound by fears and what others may think...just dance!
#quotestoliveby #wednesdaymotivation #dance #positivethoughts 
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Positive affirmations are important! How we think affects how we live. The more we are able to utilize positive self-talk the better outcome we will have in life. What we believe about ourselves changes how we live in the world and how others see us. This is an affirmation that made up and I have utilized for years. Goals are hard...but not one minute at a time :)
#monday #positivethinking #marvelousmondays#icandoallthings #psychology #livinglifeloud |
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Change can be good!
#positivethoughts #wisdomquotes #wisdombits #quoteoftheday #quotesonlife #wisdomwednesday #lifelessons #lifequotes 
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You are unique. You are special. There is no-one else like you in this world. Embrace who you are!
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Each family is unique, just like each person is unique. What are your families unique strengths?
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We are NEVER too old to dream and follow our passion!
Just like a flower needs sun we need self care! What have you done today for yourself? Self care does not have to big...it can be a small quiet moment...writing in your journal...drinking a cup of tea...walking around the block. Do something for you today :)
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So often we get so busy that we forget to live in the moment...to experience life through our senses. Now is the time to experience this moment...before it is gone.
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