by Sheryl A. Isaacs, MS
Child Therapist and Family Therapist
Here are six tips from How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk, written by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish:
Destructive Role: “You have had that toy since you were three and it almost looks new!”
2. Put children in situations where they will be able to see themselves differently.
Inability to do difficult tasks: “Sara, would you take the screwdriver and tighten the pulls
on these drawers.”
3. Let children overhear you saying something positive about them. Catch them being
Catch him being brave and share with others: “He held his arm steady even though the
4. Model the behavior that you would like to see in your child.
Graceful Winner: “It is hard to lose but I will try to be a good sport. Congratulations!”
5. Be a storehouse for your child’s positive and special moments.
“I remember the time…”
6. When your child acts according to the old label, state your feelings and/or expectations.
Sore Loser Role: “I don’t like that. Despite your strong feelings, I expect good
sportsmanship from you.”